Basic Sex Ed - the reproduction bit

What was covered in Sex-ed? For most people, the biology of reproduction, the 'penis goes in the vagina' mechanics (nothing outside of heterosexual sex was mentioned obviously, and a very narrow view of sex was used), pictures of diseased-looking genitalia, and the fact that you must always wear a condom to stop from getting pregnant or passing on diseases. Possibly with practicing putting it onto a banana.

Because obviously you'll need to do that a lot in your adult life...


Right, let's address these in order:

The biology of reproduction
Ok, once the science of what happens to the sperm and egg has been taken care of, all that was mentioned to me was that the penis went inside the vagina. That was it.

I've heard people say that they thought the man just put it in, waited a few minutes, and then said 'There, the sperm are in. Done!'

So: yes, the penis goes inside the vagina if you're trying to reproduce, but you don't just decide you want a baby and stick it in there. People generally want and need foreplay first. This can be anything from kissing and stroking, talking about sexy things, scratching, biting, spanking, and generally playing with each others' erogenous zones to get the blood to the area and to put their mind in the mood for sex. The foreplay brings the blood to the surface, making the skin more sensitive to touch. When women are turned on, the vagina lubricates itself, making it easier for the penis to enter, though many people still need lubrication to make it more comfortable. The penis becomes erect, as does the clitoris.

Then you come to the actual penis-in-vagina bit. Once it's inside, it's moved in and out, backwards and forwards in there - either by the guy moving, or the woman, or both. This feels really good for both of them! They keep doing this in whatever position(s) works for them, until the man ejaculates. Despite all the drawings of sperm as little black tadpoles, ejaculate (cum) is white. Not black...